#9: Childhood sweethearts
Ah…young “love.” Unfortunately it also teaches you a hard lesson early on in life about the true psychology of women and attraction.
Who qualifies as the first girl in my life? I think that would be around age seven or so when I met my childhood sweetheart Katie, about the second grade I think.
It’s funny, but I don’t remember too much about her now. She was always “sweet” on me according to what my grandmother said, and the other kids in class gave us grief about that. I most certainly wouldn’t count it as love as we were too young and the relationship was innocent and platonic, but I think she definitely qualifies as my “childhood sweetheart.” We were very close.
Until all the way in the fifth grade - about the third/fourth year mark in our “relationship” - when the teacher busted her for passing a note. The teacher then did what every kid dreaded in those situations….read it out loud in class. The note turned out to be a love letter to another boy in that class and I was in the classroom hearing it for myself. Knowing that, along with being embarrassed in general, Katie put her hands over her eyes and started crying. I never spoke to her again.
This was a slight preshadowing to me of how women, despite their suggested desire for monogamy, can suddenly fall for another guy that comes along. What’s amazing is that it’s even true in something as innocent and sweet as children. Even in childhood, they’re programmed to fly to the person with the greatest genes. This is one reason why I believe more than ever in sexual psychology and ancestral programming.
Katie’s end was tragic. Years later, I found out through a female friend that Katie was killed when she was struck by a drunk driver as she was driving home from her waitressing job that night. Her seatbelt might have saved her…if she had been wearing it. I don’t even know if Katie ever got to experience real love or a sexual relationship. Perhaps for as much as I bitch about never getting any, perhaps I need to remember that I am still fortunate enough to be on this green Earth to be able to do everything that Katie no longer can.