Awwww, poooooor baby
It’s like a fat kid complaining to a starving orphan that he’s wasting away because he only got two sweets instead of three.
I always roll my eyes when people cry and complain that they haven’t gotten laid in several days/weeks/months. As my friend was doing on the drive home last night.
“This sucks…I haven’t gotten laid in nearly a month…any longer and I’m going to feel like a loser.”
Ha, bub. Talk to me again after you hit a few decades and maybe I’ll sympathize with you then.
Another 20y/o Virgin Says:
May 23rd, 2008 at 1:59 am
this happened to me just last night. Friend complained about not getting any since Christmas and I played it off like, “I know what you mean man, damn it sucks”.
Sometimes I wonder if even my closest friends realize I’m still holding the v-card. I can never read their reactions to my responses. I don’t know if I’m just hiding it really well, or if they just know and don’t bring it up.
Are your closest friends aware?
Manda Says:
May 23rd, 2008 at 3:40 am
I think you should rethink your decision not to go to a sex worker. Honestly, no girl I know wants to be the first girl a guy ever has sex with - it’s such a responsibility and a burden! (Of course I’m not speaking for all girls; just me and my mates.)
Right now, any potential relationship you have is hugely unbalanced - I think you should hire a sex worker, who will be more than happy to pop your wee cherry (puh-puh-pun alert) and then you’ll be on a more even playing field with all the new girls you meet.
I honestly don’t think that having had sex with someone before (whether money changed hands or not) is going to make any future sex experiences worth less.
In closing, sex is great! You should have some. Don’t torture yourself with boring “but it doesn’t count if it’s with a prosty” bull crap. It is sex, and you need to get OVER this virgin lag.
My 2c!!
The Virgin Says:
May 23rd, 2008 at 6:44 am
20 y/o: Heh. No, they don’t know…only one other person knows. I never wanted to be a charity case. You remember the guys’ melodramatic reaction at the card table in the movie The 40 Year Old Virgin? Exactly.
Manda: That’s exactly why I don’t plan on saying anything when it does happen. Like on job interviews, volunteering unnecessary information only hurts one’s cause and the wise interviewer knows what to say and what not to. By admitting I’m a virgin, I only hurt myself and this subconsciously tells her that I’m a man with no pre-selection. Once my back story is up and I get into deeper mating strategy topics / psychology that I have studied, I will be touching this topic.
The Dateable Dork Says:
May 23rd, 2008 at 5:39 pm
Umm… well… I am SO guilty of doing that. Sorry! But then again, I have certainly gone much longer than a few weeks without sex, and I admit that I’m just being a baby about it when I complain. Feel free to call me out on it. : )
As for Manda’s recommendation - I disagree with some of what she’s saying. Do you really want your first sexual experience to be with a prostitute? I would think that you’d actually want the person to care about you to some extent (and not just your wallet). Again, just my opinion.
Regarding some of the other things in her comment - I definitely think there’s some truth to that. Specifically, if you wind up dating someone with a lot of sexual experience, there will certainly be an imbalance there. But I don’t necessarily think that’s a bad thing! If she’s into you, then what does it matter? If you’re open and honest with her about your situation, and if you’re willing to learn (which you obviously are), I actually think that could be really hot.
Just think about it before jumping into anything.
Manda Says:
May 23rd, 2008 at 7:04 pm
What’s wrong with prostitutes? They’re just people - women, in fact! - and most of the sex workers I know wouldn’t fuck a guy they didn’t want to.
I think MOST of us have fucked people we didn’t necessarily have any deep feelings for, and there’s nothing wrong or unacceptable about that!
The Virgin Says:
May 23rd, 2008 at 7:59 pm
I’ve already given my piece on the escort topic a few months ago.
“Give a man a fish…you have fed him for today. Teach a man to fish…and you have fed him for a lifetime.”