What I want of my first time
The first time is going to be when I finally meet the woman who I’m destined to be with forever, right? Wrong…leave those fantasies for Hollywood. This bachelor wants more out of his sex life.
So what am I expecting of my first time? Do I expect it to be my soulmate, the one I’m going to spend a lifetime loving relationship with? No, that’s completely ridiculous.
The first step in any relationship is ATTRACTION, not to be confused with love. Love can blossom from attraction, but sexual attraction is always first. (”Love at first sight” is bullcrap.) Generally, people typically sleep with one another after a few dates. Not nearly enough time to fall in love, I say. Let me throw another little doozy at you. How many people can honestly say that they’re still with their first partner TO THIS DAY? Somehow, I don’t think it’s that many.
So yes, I am not interested in a relationship at this time. I want have variety and I want to be with different women, and despite what offended 40-year-old crones sitting around watching The View will tell you, there’s nothing wrong with this. It’s my programming, remember? After many experiences and meeting different people, THEN I could see myself settling on one person who’s very compatible with me. I would have chosen the best possible mate for myself with no regrets. That’s my problem with society and people rushing to get married, they have to take the first thing they see. No wonder the divorce rate is 50% and couples break up all the time.
In bed, her pleasure is just as important to me as it is to her. I think it would be incredibly erotic exploring her body, experimenting and watching her body respond. I most definitely want to taste a woman and bring her to orgasm with my tongue. This will be an ego-boost to me….not to mention I’m sure she’d be more than willing to return the favor twofold. A little effort goes a long way. And it’d be an understatement to say that I am badly wanting to satisfy my curiosity about how it feels to be inside her.
I want her to leave my bed with a huge smile on her face and on cloud nine. She need not worry that I’m going to run off and tell the world what a great lay she was. Her reputation is quite safe in my bedroom, and I just want us to have fun together.
On the other hand, I’ve got doubts too. What if I ejaculate too quickly? I hear being inside a woman is heavenly and I have enough trouble keeping it together solo when INCREDIBLY aroused. What about sex positions, will I know how to maneuver? It’s fine to be ignorant when you’re much younger as it’s expected (and your partner is likely just as inexperienced) but somehow I don’t think that holds up too much when you’re my age and women are more demanding to be satisfied. Worst of all, I’ve been such a private person for so long…such intimacy could be so strange for me.
Somehow I think this would all be so much less complicated if a Mrs. Robinson had come along to corrupt me ten years ago.
Honey Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 8:13 pm
Hey The Virgin, I know you appreciate my brutal honesty, so I have to say that you might have to lose your v with a FWB-type relationship. Why? Because you’re approaching the age when many women have experimented enough to want to settle down. If you admit that you’re a virgin, then you’ve got not only inexperience working against you, but also the fact that they know you’re not going to settle with them. They might think, why bother? OTOH, the one thing I’ve never done is slept with a virgin. If I were single, it might be fun.
Hot Alpha Female Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 8:51 pm
So you want your first time to be pretty amazing huh?
Or is that your just holding out for marriage or something?
Because in that case, you might be able to use that for your advantage.
I dunno it depends, but i think that the more pressure you put on yourself for it to be really good, the harder it will be to find someone to do with you. lol.
I reckon go for quantity first up rather than quality (can’t believe i just said that). Because you are not going to be absolutely amazing the first time you do it. Comes from experience …
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The Virgin Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 9:08 pm
Honey: Yes, that is a dilemma for certain. For one thing, it’s normal for a guy to date younger, so that kind of helps. And the 50% divorce rate does work in a guy’s favor as just as many people are getting out of marriages as they are getting in them. Unfortunately I’m not that guy yet
HAF: Nah, no way am I holding out for marriage, that’s not realistic. I just want it to happen in a normal and natural situation by my own thunder. I really don’t know how it will be…all I know is whomever is sitting on the other end of that bed deserves my very best. At least fake it ’til I make it, yeah?
The Beautiful Kind Says:
April 3rd, 2008 at 8:21 pm
I just told my guy about this post and he said that when he lost his virginity at age 19 all drunk and to a woman 15 years his senior, instinct took over.
Then again, the first time we had sex, after waiting a couple months and being all keyed up, he was overwhelmed and had trouble maintaining an erection. So that first time was a bit awkward, but we have SOOO worked past that.