Know your pickup artists: Doc Love
Damnit Jim, I’m a love doctor, not a pickup artist!
During the holidays I don’t follow that “Merry Christmahanakwanzakah” politically correct crap. So there’s no way in hell I’m showing the same discretion towards these guys who get offended at the “pickup artist” term and cry that they’re a guru, dating coach or whatever. Therefor I will label all following articles of this kind all the same whether the guys fall into the label or not.
So we have Doc Love - real name Thomas Hodges - who is definitely NOT a pickup artist…he’s a “Love Doctor.” Despite his different goals, many of his beliefs about being a secure, strong man to women go hand in hand with some of what the pickup artists teach. It’s not surprising because it’s a universal truth…if it weren’t then it would be the “nice guys/simps” who would have women flocking at their feet. That, and I wouldn’t be writing this blog right now.
So I’ve already established what Doc Love is NOT…let’s go ahead and talk about what he IS. Unlike the pickup artist game where the goal is to meet lots of women, Doc Love is about getting one good woman and keeping her. His book The System - comprised from 30 years of research and interviews with women - highlights the traits of choosing a good woman and how it’s “challenge” that keeps her interested and in love. It follows a message of viewing the “bottom line” - paying attention to how she really acts towards you and not following what she “says” she wants or feels. (Two different things, and so true.) He urges guys to pay attention to the woman’s interest level - not their own - as such emotions can blind men over how she really feels and acts towards him. Why deny what’s right in front of your eyes?
I’d say out of all the guys I’ve read from and studied, Doc is one of the ones who uses the most common sense logic versus radical ideas that have no method to their madness. But his weakness can be his old fashion views at times. I seem to remember that he used to insist on getting her home phone over her cell phone as it was more personal and not a screening tool. However, more people are using cell phones exclusively these days and really is the most personal number to some people. I’ve noticed in his recent articles and podcasts that he’s opened up to this a bit, at the very least urging guys not to settle for a cop-out business number.
The other problem is that he’s relationship-centric and offers little towards improving a man’s dating game, other than how “not” to act. While there’s nothing wrong with focusing on the relationship, how can a man get a relationship if he cannot attract a woman in the first place? Look back to my own story after I had read his book and you’ll notice that I was still not getting anywhere. I might of had the knowledge to know where I stood with someone, but I was still the same old guy giving off the signals that made women ignore me in the first place.
To other guys, I’m not saying to ignore Doc Love’s book, but be aware how it fits into your situation. Are you a sissy nice guy trying to break old misconceptions about love and dating and start reclaiming your masculinity? Pick up Doc’s book. Are you trying to learn how to attract and charm women? Put Doc Love’s book down and look for other books on pickup. Have you found a good woman and want to keep her happy? Put those pickup books back down and pick up Doc’s book again.
The System costs $99 and isn’t a bad deal compared to what other other guys charge for their materials. He also offers followup “Mastery” books but as far as I’m aware they are just a collection of his advice column (some of which already available on the web for free) so I wouldn’t bother with those. I do recommend his book “The System,” but be aware of my warning above. If you’d rather not spend that, you can still get plenty of free helpful advice and information through his online column as well as his podcast of his weekly radio show. I don’t see the other two guys I previously talked about offering any free weekly columns/posts or radio shows lately.
He’s been highly influential on me and I’ll go as far to say that he “saved me” from myself, and to the guys out there, I hope his advice might be helpful in some way to you as well.