Losing my virginity to TBK: The cons…
…as well as the reasons why I should think with my head and not my dick.
It is a rare and uncommon scenario. How many guys will ever get laid in this manner in their lives? The other 99.9 percent of the time you need to take the initiative yourself. After this, if I still can’t attract a woman under normal courting then sorry Charlie, there’s no nookie.
Crossing the line from a friendly to sexual relationship. TBK and I are friends…sex changes things. TBK is open-minded and as such, knows how to deal with that. The question is, can “I”? Is this going to make things awkward in the future?
I’m a novelty. Face it, I’m a virgin…that’s the appeal in laying me and it makes for interesting blog fodder. The question is, would I still have received this offer if I *wasn’t* a virgin?
My future expectations could be set too high. Not putting “the pussy on a pedestal,” but after TBK has rocked my world (just read her blog), will other women seem more “vanilla” in comparison? It’s like spoiling a young kid rotten: they grow up not to appreciate the simple things.
Ignorance is bliss. The one good thing about being a virgin for so long is that you don’t really know what you’re missing out on. What if I got laid and didn’t get another taste of that for two/three more decades? I don’t think I could handle that.
lena Says:
August 6th, 2008 at 1:29 am
TBK will be one hell of a woman to handle buy there are other strong assertive women, who will be able to hold your interest in the bedroom much like i feel like TBK will.
NewWrldYankee Says:
August 6th, 2008 at 4:44 am
The thing is, TBK can teach you a thing or two and make you confident and competent in the bedroom. When you are confident in the bedroom and feel more sexy, you will automatically project more confidence outside of it. You might find yourself being and feeling more attractive, and girls can sense it and vice versa. The real concern is your feelings - I never considered how attached you may feel towards her if you go through with this. Maybe you wouldn’t get this offer if you weren’t a virgin, but only in the sense that if you weren’t one, you would have never started this blog, and become acquainted with her. *Unless u knew her before, which is a diff case*
The Best Amigo Says:
August 6th, 2008 at 6:26 am
I don’t think #4 is a problem, as lena said, there are other strong assertive women out there. And #3 isn’t either, people get a lot of chances in their lives because of what they are or something they have, that doesn’t make it wrong. Only problem I see here is #2, Can you maintain your friendship after that?
The Virgin Says:
August 6th, 2008 at 8:27 am
NWY: Yes, I didn’t meet her through the blog, I met/worked with her in person before that. Does this change your answer?
Honey Says:
August 6th, 2008 at 10:37 am
Not sure if you are just blogging pros and cons to create interest on the blog…I don’t think guys do this pro/con thing in real life. I think they just sleep with girls.
The Virgin Says:
August 6th, 2008 at 10:48 am
Honey: Those guys are likely not virgins either.
The Dateable Dork Says:
August 6th, 2008 at 4:35 pm
Hahaha! I agree with Honey - In my experience, guys give very little thought to whether they should have sex with a girl or not - they just do it. : ) Even on the rare occasion that they do think about it for a minute, they’ll almost always go through with it.
This being your first time, however, makes it a very different case. Like I said earlier, I won’t give you advice one way or the other. Chances are you’ve already decided anyway! : )
The Beautiful Kind Says:
August 6th, 2008 at 4:51 pm
(whispers in his ear) “C’mon, Virgin, say yes! Pretty please?”
I know Virgin is a thinking man, that’s the #2 reason I want to bed him. #1 is the virgin thing, yep.
And I WOULDN’T ask him if he wasn’t cute! I have to be attracted to the person and into it!
NewWrldYankee Says:
August 7th, 2008 at 12:54 am
I already know your decision, but the fact that you knew her even before the blog reinforces as a good idea in my opinion. yay for you!